Giving birth to a new life, someone who is a part of you and your beloved is a divine and joyous feeling. The urge to experience motherhood is inevitable for any woman.
However, first pregnancy brings fears of all kinds, a few of them are rational or understandable. But there are fears that women who get pregnant or the first time find it difficult to explain and share it with others including husband and one’s mother. Every mum-to-be experiences this and often pregnancy fears take a toll on her. Though you spend time fantasizing about how your life would be, 9 months after, but there are aspects which make you really uncomfortable. Pregnancy is the best time to pamper yourself, but what is it that is making you cringe?
You find it hard to prevent your mind from entering the dark space, where you fear the unexpected.
WittyFeed brings you some of the common struggles first-time mommies face.
What If I Lose My Job During My Maternity Leave?
What if my boss finds a replacement whom he thinks is more efficient than a woman who has just returned from her maternity leave?
The common perception (even if not accepted openly) is that a woman who worries for her child and household more, lacks focus on her career
Will I ever feel comfortable in my body again?
The female body and hormones go through multiple changes during pregnancy and it takes time for the woman to feel herself again. The transition period triggers insecurities about self-esteem, looks, body shape etc.
While I get all bloated bearing our child; will my husband get attracted to some other female?
It is natural for you to demand more attention and care from your husband during the 9 months of the pregnancy and if you ever finds his attention diverted to other women (more trouble if she is good looking or hot!) then he surely will have a rocking time dealing with his pregnant and now cranky wife!
Will getting intimate hurt me?
While a lot of women say sex is much better after having a child, the fear of getting hurt after the delivery can surely drive you nuts.
All the worry!!
Often, you start feeling anxious about the baby’s health, you want to feel your womb and pray that your child is healthy and fit when he/she is born!
Will I be able to hold him properly?
You may have never seen something so beautiful or tender as your own newborn and hence the fear of holding your baby properly is the first thing to ring a bell in your head, soon after you see your child for the first time
Will I be able to feed my child properly?
Most breastfeeding mothers get worried about that! It’s hard to judge how much your baby is eating, or even keep track of how often would he /she feel hungry! They will find their ways of letting you know and you have to trust yourself to have given them what they need
Will my husband get cranky?
My husband is a peace lover – would he get cranky when he hears the baby cry instead of helping me handle the child …? Well gift him a parenting book right away!
Am I going to die soon out of exhaustion?
Well giving birth to a child isn’t a child’s play, it can wear you out but be assured you won’t die. All you need is a loving husband, a few relatives, some really efficient help at home and eventually a good nanny!